Supporting a Grieving Friend
If you’re supporting someone who’s grieving, thank you! They need it. Here are links to the most relevant pieces.
Judgement in Grief
One surprising thing I found since Mike died is how judged I’ve felt in my grief. At the time in my life when I most needed support, I felt isolated, misunderstood and judged. The judgement came from all directions, including people close to me, acquaintances, other grievers, strangers, doctors and one awful dentist. It took me a while to understand the…
What to say to a grieving friend
In the previous post I talked about the painful way comments can feel like judgement in grief. Since then, I’ve been reflecting on the follow up I promised about what to say instead.
What can you do?
I’ve explained some of the unhelpful things people say to grievers, and suggested things to say instead. And now let’s talk about what you can do to help in a situation that feels helpless.