Love this Miranda. Thank you for sharing. We are on this journey of grief and
uncertainty of what we should do. Your words are very helpful.
For me, I feel the build up to any anniversary is much harder than the actual day. I say that from looking back after all the firsts I have now gone through. John’s birthday is coming up next week and I am not feeling as emotional or unsettled of how that day will go. I now feel much lighter, after being through all those anniversaries already, which I was not expecting.
I will share that I do feel John with me, especially when I am struggling with an issue or decision. I get some kind of sign from him that gives me the guidance. It’s happened
way too many times to ignore, which gives me the strength I need when struggling with what I should do. If that makes any sense at all lol.
Alana, it helps me tremendously to hear how it is for you now that you have gone through the firsts. It's been 2 months since my partner passed away and there are many more firsts to come. Mind you, within those two months there's already been Christmas, New Years, our first date anniversary and am about to have my birthday, his birthday and a memorial service for him in the next two weeks. A cascade of firsts in a short amount of time! I know that everyone's grief journey is different AND it helps to read/hear from those who have been on this journey longer than me. Thank you for sharing. ✨🙏
Thank you for answering my question with an entire post! Your ideas are super helpful and no doubt I will keep coming back to it as different anniversaries and significant days pop up throughout the year. My birthday and my late partner's birthdays are both coming up next week. The memorial service for my partner is going to be held on his actual birthday as his children and I all thought it would be a lovely way to celebrate his life with all the people he loved and touched. As for my birthday, I am planning to keep it low key. Serendipity was on my side when a colleague/friend suggested we rehearse the dance we are doing for the memorial service on my birthday (not knowing it was my birthday). I think it would help as I would be doing something I love (dancing) with the people I love (my fellow dancers) and dancing for my beloved. Thank you again, Miranda. xo
I'm so glad this was helpful, Kei! Thank you for asking the question.
Wow, what a significant week you have coming up with both your birthday and your late partner's birthday as well as his memorial service. It sounds like you have some absolutely beautiful ways to honour him planned. What you've mentioned here sounds so moving and meaningful. And the dance sounds wonderful too. What a gift to move your body with people you love and honour your late partner as well! I'm so happy to hear this and will be holding space for you and these big dates coming up.
Love this Miranda. Thank you for sharing. We are on this journey of grief and
uncertainty of what we should do. Your words are very helpful.
For me, I feel the build up to any anniversary is much harder than the actual day. I say that from looking back after all the firsts I have now gone through. John’s birthday is coming up next week and I am not feeling as emotional or unsettled of how that day will go. I now feel much lighter, after being through all those anniversaries already, which I was not expecting.
I will share that I do feel John with me, especially when I am struggling with an issue or decision. I get some kind of sign from him that gives me the guidance. It’s happened
way too many times to ignore, which gives me the strength I need when struggling with what I should do. If that makes any sense at all lol.
Thanks so much for reading and for sharing this, Alana!
I totally agree the build up can be more challenging than the day itself. I feel so much dread and apprehension and heaviness.
I'm so pleased to hear you are feeling lighter in advance of John's upcoming birthday.
And lovely to hear that you feel John with you as well. It's great to lean into those moments of strength where we can find them. Makes perfect sense!
Alana, it helps me tremendously to hear how it is for you now that you have gone through the firsts. It's been 2 months since my partner passed away and there are many more firsts to come. Mind you, within those two months there's already been Christmas, New Years, our first date anniversary and am about to have my birthday, his birthday and a memorial service for him in the next two weeks. A cascade of firsts in a short amount of time! I know that everyone's grief journey is different AND it helps to read/hear from those who have been on this journey longer than me. Thank you for sharing. ✨🙏
That’s a lot of firsts in such a short amount of time. 😔
All I can offer is to do what ever gives YOU comfort. Hugs
Thank you, Alana. 🙏✨
Dear Miranda,
Thank you for answering my question with an entire post! Your ideas are super helpful and no doubt I will keep coming back to it as different anniversaries and significant days pop up throughout the year. My birthday and my late partner's birthdays are both coming up next week. The memorial service for my partner is going to be held on his actual birthday as his children and I all thought it would be a lovely way to celebrate his life with all the people he loved and touched. As for my birthday, I am planning to keep it low key. Serendipity was on my side when a colleague/friend suggested we rehearse the dance we are doing for the memorial service on my birthday (not knowing it was my birthday). I think it would help as I would be doing something I love (dancing) with the people I love (my fellow dancers) and dancing for my beloved. Thank you again, Miranda. xo
I'm so glad this was helpful, Kei! Thank you for asking the question.
Wow, what a significant week you have coming up with both your birthday and your late partner's birthday as well as his memorial service. It sounds like you have some absolutely beautiful ways to honour him planned. What you've mentioned here sounds so moving and meaningful. And the dance sounds wonderful too. What a gift to move your body with people you love and honour your late partner as well! I'm so happy to hear this and will be holding space for you and these big dates coming up.
Thank you, Miranda. 💖🥰